Wednesday, August 24, 2011

God Exists

I usually reserve serious topics for my journal. It's so much more fun to read things that make you laugh, but I'm going to deviate today. Feel free to skip.

After all that I wrote the other day and all the precious prayers loved ones offered for our tiny baby, we lost the fight. I went in to the doctor's office yesterday and there was no heartbeat. Silence has never been so painful.

I was thinking about it all last night - specifically why we didn't lose the baby right away - why we had to go through weeks of hoping and desperate prayer, all to have the same devastating result. But I've decided if we had to lose our baby, I'd rather it be like this. This child was so loved and so well fought for. Many people were praying and hoping. What better legacy could there be for a life, than to be loved hard and fought for desperately? What a beautiful way to leave and enter the arms of Peace.

We named the baby Jesse. It's suitable for a boy or a girl and it means "God exists" or "Gift". Jesse is a gift. A precious blessing we won't meet for a long time, but probably the only child we will have that will never know pain or suffering. "Every good and perfect gift is from above, coming down from the Father of heavenly lights, who does not change..." No pain - only heavenly light.

And God exists. Even in this. Especially in this. When nothing else makes sense and I doubt everything, I can rely on two solid truths: God is big and He is good. Always big. Always good. And that is more than enough for me. I feel the pain. I am heartbroken. I feel so empty where I used to have a life inside. I long for my baby. I ache to tell Jesse how much Jon and I love him or her. But the only one who understands is Big enough to hold me and good enough to cry with me. And He's holding our gift, better and stronger and with more love than I could ever provide. Our baby is safe. With a God who is real.

Thank you, friends, for your prayers for us in these last weeks. God has been gracious to us. He has provided everything we need, often through you. Your support means more than you know and your love is remarkable.

"'Though the mountains be shaken and the hills be removed, yet my unfailing love for you will not be shaken nor my covenant of peace be removed,' says the Lord who has compassion on you"
Isaiah 54:10

6 comments:

Heather and Matt said...

Oh Becky, I am so sorry for your loss :(. My heart breaks for you and Jon, but I am so thankful that you both know God's love, peace, and sovereignty. I will continue to pray for you both as I know it will be a long journey for you. I love you.

Megan said...

I love you.

11493806-a9b8-11e0-9fa6-000bcdcb2996 said...

I am Heather Clement's cousin, I found your blog some time ago through hers. You have brightened my day so many times, and although I a stranger may not be as comforting as a friend, I just want you to know I have also felt the same devastating losses you have, and I will be praying for you and your family. Nate is so cute! With his love, peace, and mercy wished upon you, and praying praying praying- Pru

Kathryn said...

Hey, sweet girl. I haven't read you for awhile. I am so sorry for your loss. I love how you processed it with your words- you have a gift. I miss you. Will you still be in Virginia for the next two weeks? I'll be there Wednesday. Love to give you a hug.

Heather Nicole said...

I can't understand how I missed this post. I'm sorry I did, and I'm sorry Jesse isn't with you any more. how heart breaking... I'm so sorry.
This post, however, is perfect even in less than perfect times. you are a wonderful writer and a wonderful mother--and that comes through loud and clear here. I'm proud to know you and feel very privileged to read this, even a little late, as I have. I hope your time in VA is lifting your spirits and comforting your soul.

A.C. said...

I don't know how I missed this either, but I'm so sorry Rebekah. You are such an amazing and strong person. I truly admire your faithful heart and your always positive attitude. Only you could make me cry and smile in the same post. Hope you are enjoying your time in Virginia with your family!